She called S a FLY

I know I know, it has been longer than it should be for an update.. but here we are. UPDATING

Really I just wanted to write down what M said tonight. Silly little girl

EC and S are girls in her class.



M:  EC really is mean
me: oh, really? Why?
M: she called S a fly
at this moment I stared at her waiting.. waiting for their to be more.. but there wasn't
me: a fly? Like as in the bug?
M: YES! AND she told S that she is 5 but really she is 6
me: oh..
M: AND, she told S that she deserved it
me: oh no, what did EC do?
M: she told me
me: told you? Why didn't she go to the choices wheel (the wheel post)
M: we were at lunch
me: oh, what did you do?
M: I told EC that she was being a little bit mean.
me: hum.. well, that is nice of you to stick up for S
M: yea, I mean.. right now EC is my half friend but if she keeps being mean then she wont be my friend at all


a fly huh? I'd like to be a fly.. a fly on the wall to hear my child's conversations


Side note: she asked for a drink with dinner. When I handed her water, she looked at me crazy and said.  "Umm Mom, I was hoping for some lime juice. I love lime juice"  yes, she means lime juice out of a lime or the bottles kind you cook with. Crazy kid. and NO I didn't get her a glass of lime juice

Just some random pictures

Here are a few random pictures that pertain to school:

What does the above picture have to do with school? She has on her school skirt duh.  The actual picture represents something completle off school topic. It is the first time that her and I used the restroom in stalls next to each other instead of in the same one. She has been going in the stall out in public for about 4 months now but I usually stand outside the door. This time there wasn't anyone else in the restroom, we both had to go, so boom.. there we go.. HUGE DEAL just to let you know

waiting in car line

I spy in car line

another picture that isn't school related other than her clothes. BUT.. this reminds me of my sister. She use to drive me crazy becuase she would watch TV while laying down and putting her feet in the air. It always blocked my view of the TV. Other times she would watch TV just like this. I am pretty sure she  still does this when she is alone

I spy in car line

Every day when she walks past me while I am waiting in car line. Getting there 45 minutes early is worth it when I get this smile. I am going to miss carline so much when I go to externs. 

Just chilling in school uniform

She refused to look at me for her day three of Yoga. I guess the sun was "too bright"

Exposed to the world?

This is not school related but it is learning related.

Remember that show Kids say the darndest things with Bill Cosby? I loved that show, too bad they don't make show like that anymore. The funny thing about that show is how true it is. Kids really do say the darndest things. We can't get upset with them for what they say, children are so innocent and born without judgement. The things they say are not meant in judgement but in wonder. They wonder about things, people, ways, words, thoughts, and everything inbetween. When they see something they have never seen before, experience something they have never experienced before, or hear something they have never heard before, be prepared for the questions.


We were in Kohls the other day and I saw a Dwarf family walk in. Now, I have seen this lady around town for years and the family actually lived in my old neighborhood. It is nothing new to me to see all 5  of them here and there. Knowing that Chica was wondering behind me as I look for the dress I was exchanging I momentarly thought to myself if she was starring. We continued to shop and again passed the family. Nothing was said, nothing caught my attention, nothing was asked.

As we are in the dressing room and Chica is dancing around and chit-chatting away she looks at me and says in all seriousness..

Chica: Mom, are Elfs real?
(first thing I thought was Elf on a Shelf.. being prepared to tell her the truth is she asked)
Me: Wll, what do you think?
Chica: I don't know
(It was the way she said it. She said it like she was completly torn on her opinion, like she really had no clue, as if she honestly didn't know.. That is when it hit me. The Dwarf family)

So I whisper:
me: are you talking about the little people we say
Chica: ::she nods her head::
me: they aren't elfs.. they are, well, I dont remember what they are called (I couldn't think of the word Darf) they are... little people..
Chica: :::slightly giggles::::  oh ok, but why are we whispering?
me: because we don't know who is in the dressing room and we don't want to hurt anyones feelings. they are people just like you and me, and we don't stare
Chica: ok but I didn't know we don't stare
me: thats ok


What a thought.. Are Elfs real? Kids say the darndest things.



And that is the first time my child has seen a Dawrf family. It got me wondering though, if she is really exposed to the world around her and the people in the world. She knows we are all different but the same in Gods eyes. She knows we all have our unique qualities. She knows that we are all people regardless of skin color, looks, and so on. She knows all this but has she really seen any of this?

Does she know a difference in skin color? well of course she does but she doesn't see people as different based on the color of their skin.  Since she was little she has been fascinated with Asian people so I know she sees differences in a person's features. But what about the physically challenged or the mentally challenged? Has she met anyone with Dawn Syndrome? Has she met a child with Cerbal Palsy? Has she ever seen a person with a fake leg? This are things I want for my child. For her to know and understand differences in people. For her to be kind to people regardless of their differences. I know in time she will see, meet, and experience different people. I know in time her curiosity won't be so simple. I know in time, she will ask and wonder more. I just hope she does not judge. As humans, we judge. We judge based on looks, actions, and materialistic things. I pray that my child will learn not to judge. Learn to love people. Learn to get to know them before an opinion is made. I hope she not only learns to love all people but she is an example to other kids and teaches them to love all people. We are all the same in God's eyes. We are all worth while and amazing. We all deserve a chance, kindness, and love. I hope her simple innocence stays with her as long as possible.

Disappointment on her face

Chica: P and I can't be together any more

me: oh? What do you mean? Like at recess?

Chica: I'm afraid not

me: OH. did yall get in trouble or something?

the look that came over her face was somehting I have never seen before. PURE dissapointment in herself. It broke my heart. She has never gotten in trouble at school before. After 20 minutes of me trying to get her to tell me what she got in trouble for. After 20 minutes of huge tears in her eyes, her refusing to tell me or to say anything at all, and instead she was trying to hold her self together. After 20 minutes of me letting her know it is ok to get in trouble at school sometimes, all kids get in trouble, she is there all day five days a week, that it wont be the last time, and so on and so on. She ends up telling me that her and P were playing with their food (corn) by hiding it in their hand and making the other guess which hand it was in. Her teacher said something to the sorts of "yall can't be together" and my child took that as in they can't ever play/eat/sit/read/listen/ and everything else possible for forever. Poor little girl.



Often, I think about the things that she is going to experience and learn over the next year. I think about the moments she will be proud of herself and the moments she will be disappointed in herself. I wonder if I have prepared her for those moments. Of course, being her mom, I don't want her to deal with disappointment (from herself or anyone else) but I know that she must. She is a human, God made us able to deal with disappointment and she will only learn as she experiences it. The same goes for being proud. I have full confidence in my child. I know her strengths and weaknesses. I know her happiness and her nervousness. I know her success and her failures. I know she is and will be the type of person that is more angry and disappointed in herself than anyone else. I know that I will have to make the conscious effort to teach her that she doesn't need to be perfect.

It starts now, preparing her for being a kind, giving, understand, forgiving, loving, positive adult. It starts now, teaching her that life will not always be rainbows and butterflies. Life changes, we make mistakes, we hurt.. but it is what you do with it all. It won't be the last time she plays with her food. Heck, I play with my food and I am almost 30. It wont be the last time she gets in trouble (although she didn't really get in trouble) It wont be the last time her eyes fill with tears as she sits in disappointment of herself. All I can do is allow it to happen. Allow her to learn. Allow her to see the outcome. While I stand beside her with love and encouragement.

Half Friends

The first day chica told me about a boy she was friends with. She tells me that this boy was mean to another little girl (M) and yelled at her. After telling me the story, she states that she isn't going to be his friend because he is mean. I explained to her that they could still be friends but maybe she needs to kindly tell him to be nicer to people. That was on a Friday. Monday afternoon rolls around and we talk about her day as usual. In the middle of the conversation she is going on and on about her day and she says

"you know my half friend"
me: your what?
chica: my half friend.. you know, the boy that was mean to M
me: umm, yea. Is that what you call him? Your half friend?
chica: yea, because he is mean

The conversation went on longer but that is all I wanted to really talk about. Her "half friend" oh my goodness. How my child's brain works just simply amazes me. I get it though. She is half his friend becuase she is unsure if she wants to be his friend because he is mean to others. GO HER. I give her props.. she took my advice, stayed friends with him, but is going by her own judgement on if they should be friends. I take it her opinion is half right now?.?.




UPDATE:  chica and her half friend are no longer friends. "he yells at other kids all the time"

Well, good choice.. lets move on and find kinder friends!

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